The degradation and emasculation of men has always been built into porn.

What it teaches men to do, what it gets them ‘biblically’ hooked into doing and wanting done to themselves fucks up sex. Every stroke they get led to put on autopilot is wrong. & they awkwardly feel the dissonance… even when their women live the lie with them for the house, positioning, access or whatever.

They know it’s off…that’s why they cave in and rely on it even when they have the girl right there willing to pretend it’s not trash. It’s just…bad programming language on autopilot. Some guys have been doing dumb, utterly unsatisfactory stuff in bed for decades , supposedly assured of their abilities in the silence by also-

Like…I always felt some cheating is keyed to him knowing it’s bad sex that she’s settling for with him, when the double lie becomes exhausting for her. The insecurities undergirding the cheating to see if someone else is going to ‘like’ it and all.

But it’s not one-sided.

Women of the last three generations have grown up parroting porn too. Even in their kinks people have gotten so performative that they’ve lost the thread.

Discovering and amplifying your kink applicably used to be freeing…. But the liberation got commodified and humans became casualties to and commodities for one another’s performance.

The sex that used to be had… had you looking sincerely forward to the Taste the Biscuits era.

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These kids opting out are doing so for similar root reasons to why even my happily hedonistic heart stepped away from it all.

And now? More of all these old men who’ve been shut down even in transactional sex with their peers are fixating on kids to hurt them and call IT sex , wanting to convince those kids they hurt that trauma IS sex and is all they’re worth…. because their own porn- scripted sexual behavior has traumatized them.

But Now, because nothing can match the dopamine buzzer being strung up? We have parents making step-siblings share a room on a cruise ship when the step sister has already rung the bell that her step brother is trying to sexualize her… as pornhub pushes stepfamily porn Hard…and that stepbrother raping his stepsister and killing her on said cruise, hiding her body. He did what he watched done to spec and murdered her in the process.